Confession: I found an app that tracks the usage of all the apps on my phone. I will not publish for all the world to see how many hours a week I was spending on Facebook. It’s shameful. Even more shameful: that wasn’t enough to make me deactivate it/delete it/whatever it. Michal (my husband) deleted his a few months ago, and even though he spent on it a percentage of the time I did, he found himself not missing Facebook. At all.
Side note: My husband may be one of the most introverted people in the world when he comes home from work, so he may not be a great litmus strip. But, I digress…
He reads a lot, my husband. Not the type of reading I do, but mainly tech and job-related articles and journals. He began sending me articles about Facebook and why so many people were going away from it. As I kept reading article after article, nothing really made me want to flip the switch. Until the very last one he sent.
It talked about progress and technology and how they can be positive replacements for traditional, analog things. For instance:
Snail mail was replaced by email.
Rolodexes replaced by contact lists in phones.
Day Planners replaced by online calendars.
Typewriters replaced by word processing software.
The one thing the article shed light on was this: what the heck did Facebook replace? The answer was this vague, intangible substance that no one could really put a finger on. That, more than anything made me pause and take stock. I had over a thousand friends on Facebook, but I may have interacted with 5-10 on any sort of normal basis. I was in a gajillion groups of people wanting to sell this or that or the other. I even had a group myself for Young Living. But, what was I really gaining from Facebook?
For Sale groups.
Fighting between friends and family.
Did I mention drama?
Personal messages from folks I have no real relationship with outside of Facebook.
A good, positive article (that was overshadowed by intolerant, hateful comments).
You seeing a pattern here? Yea. I thought so. The negativity far outweighed the positivity.
So, I did it. I clicked that big blue deactivate button.
It’s freeing, y’all. Especially since I’m making an effort to reach out to people with a personal text or phone call instead of just scrolling past their feeds day after day.